Why All Men Cheat on Loyal Women – By Ebrahim Aseem

When I confessed to my EX’s questioning of my fidelity over a year ago, all she could say was “wow”. She seemed very taken aback by my answer. So today, when I was asked ‘why men cheat’ by a young lady during a Public Speaking event, I was initial hesitant to share the full conversation me and my EX had about her suspicion of my lack of loyalty.

“Can you tell me why all men cheat on loyal Women?” a curly haired PreMed student asked me today, during my public speak to a room full of 300 Women. My response to her question was,

“Males cheat on loyal women to boost their ego. A woman can be perfect for him. Beautiful, career minded, own money, cooks, does whatever he wants her to do in bed, loyal, intelligent, educated, faithful and yet, he will still cheat on her with an ugly, kangaroo looking girl every time. But why?

How a male treats a woman is NOT a reflection of HER worth. Nor is it a reflection on anything she LACKS or is not doing. An overly macho, mentally weak, sensitive-minded male knows he does not DESERVE a strong minded woman. In his mind, he thinks one day she will mentally awaken to the realization she deserves better than him & leave him. This is why males cheat on a woman, to have POWER over her. He cheats on her to boost his ego.

Most “males” are more insecure than women. Notice I referred to a “male” and not a “man”, as there is a distinct difference. Many males have VERY low self esteem. You can tell, that’s why he says, “I only fuck with bad bitches”. He is saying this to convince himself, attempting to drown out his insecurities that are on repeat inside of his own mind.

By cheating on a good woman, it makes a weak minded male feel he has POWER over her. It makes him feel he is worth more than her. A male knows if he cheats on a loyal woman, she will care about him more. Yes, initially she will be shocked a man has the audacity to cheat on her, especially with an UGLY woman. No, not merely “physically” ugly, no. The word UGLY describes the particular amount of compassion, sweetness and being genuine and nurturing the woman he cheats with lacks.

A woman whose loyalty is taken for granted will question herself like:
“what is wrong with me?
Am I not I’m pretty enough?
Is my ass not curvy and fat enough for him?
Is my stomach not slim enough for him?
Is it because I won’t let him bring another girl in the bedroom with us?
Is it my smart mouth?
Is it that I’m always “over emotional” like he complains?
What aren’t I doing right?
Should I do more?”

Then she will try to stay with him to PROVE to him she is better than the girl he cheated on her with. To prove to herself she can fight for love and can help him by help changing a bad boy into a good man, fooling herself. This is reverse psychology. A weak minded male just got a Good Woman to mentally submit herself to a mentally immature man, purely by cheating on her. Males use cheating to TRICK a good woman into SETTLING for him. But this mind game many males play cannot and will not work on a Loyal woman who knows her WORTH.

I learned as Men, we must realize that ONE woman who holds us down and stays by our side, after we cheat on her, lie to her, hurt her, use her and disrespect her over & over & over, she is NOT loyal. She is WEAK. She is poisonous. She will hold back your growth as a Man. Don’t be fooled & think a girl telling you what you want to hear is loyalty.

As a mentally mature Man, we need a Woman who will be genuine with us at all times, even if that means she speaks her mind to the point her words pierce us and her tone appears to be “smart mouthed”. In reality, she’s not being “smart mouthed’ she’s being a Queen mentality strong enough to verbally ascend to her thrown.

a Loyal, Strong Minded Woman will speak her mind, regardless of what anyone thinks. Tell us the TRUTH. Tell us when we are WRONG. A Loyal woman will not allow us to hurt her multiple times & still accept us. That is NOT loyalty. Not at all. That is Pacifying. Babying. Appeasing.

A Loyal Woman will be loyal to your MANHOOD, not loyal to your EGO. A Loyal Woman will tell us the TRUTH, even if that means she might LOSE us. A Loyal Woman will tell us when our shitstinks, even if it makes us mad. A mentally mature man does not want a YES woman. Trust me. We don’t want a girl who will LET us hurt you and abuse you over & over & still accept us back, simply because you keep being told through Instagram Memes that real love must be suffered through and fought for. If she still stays with us after we prove to her time and time again that we genuinely aren’t strong enough as a man to keep her consistently happy in a relationship, it means she doesn’t really care about us as a man. She only cares about how we make her feel sexually. She is dickdizzy.

When a Woman truly LOVES a man, she loves him at his BEST, not settling for his worst. She wants us to BE the MAN who we were destined to be by the Holy Spirit. A man who can speak life into a woman, erase her insecurities, and shower her with loyalty and consistence. A loyal woman will tell her man to get his lazy ass up, get a job & pursue his dreams. A Loyal Woman will not allow a man to live off her. A Loyal Woman will not baby a man by working a job herself, while he sits his lazy ass in her house all day, playing XBOX and eating Lucky Charms and Pop Tarts raw.

A Loyal Woman will not allow a man to talk down to her & disrespect her like she’s any girl, because she knows a mentally mature man DESERVES a Strong Minded Woman. A Loyal Woman will not allow a man to refer to her as a Bitch, Bad Bitch, Boss Bitch, My Bitch, Wifey Bitch, because she knows we deserve a Queen who has integrity.

A Loyal Woman will not allow a male to FORCE her to get an abortion, or let him off the hook for abandoning her after getting her pregnant, because she knows we DESERVE to be a Father, not a Baby Daddy. A Loyal Woman will not tell a man what he wants to hear, she will feed him wisdom he NEEDS to hear and not be scared to do to it, because she is Loyal to his inner king, which is his spirit. A Loyal Woman will not allow a man to cheat on her over & over, leave her, then come crawling his cheating ass back after he had sex with every girl in the neighborhood, 11 of his followers on twitter, every girl who liked the pick of his “are you DTF or nah?” meme on his Instagram page. No, because she knows her worth.

Just as I speak to you women today, I speak life into young men as well, and I tell them to carry themselves as a KING, to hold their head high and never settle for a WEAK woman, when he deserves a Strong Queen like you young women. Yes, a WEAK Woman may always tell a man that he is right, yes she will let him use her, yes she will give him her money to pay his phone bill that is in his mother’s name, and she will give him her money without him even having to ask, but; she can never make him a better man and she can never love him like, a loyal woman can.

I made a huge mistake committing myself to a weak minded woman before, and that woman was my ex. Last year after I broke up with her, she asked me if I ever cheated on her, as she always suspected. I told her the truth and confessed, “I have never cheated on you or any woman, and I have never been unfaithful in any relationship.”

After my confession, all she could say was, “wow”, because it is commonly assumed all men cheat, yet this is completely false. I could agree all males cheat, at some point in their life, but a “Man” not a “male” but a man knows if he cheats, he would be not only cheating on a good woman, he would be cheating himself out of allowing a loyal woman to help mold him into a king.

Many people argue men cheat, because his woman will not do what his women on the side will, but he would never even consider the option of having women on the side if he deserved her in the first place. Some men are genuinely not ready for a relationship. To force one with him is only creating a relationship death wish. The idea that men are incapable of being monogamous is false.

I enjoy going on dates, flirting, courting and enjoy my single life, but in the back of my mind, I’m looking for a WIFE. I have ZERO interest in having side HOES or “fans”. I don’t need to have sex with every beautiful woman I meet to prove how much of a “man” I am. My loyalty, monogamy, spirituality & mental maturity proves that.

Each woman I meet, I’m looking to see if she is Wife Material. Because I know I am Husband material. My mother raised a future husband, not a hoe. I choose to be celibate while single, because my mother raised me to be a father and not a baby daddy. I live my life this way as proof that loyal men do indeed exist.

I have to admit, I am extremely picky and I know what a want in a woman. I want a woman who is as strong minded as me. I must admit I love a woman with a smart mouth who will speak her mind, yet knows that my masculinity and romantic aggression will always demand her respect, so she never verbally disrespects me. I love a woman who is spiritual. I love a woman who loves to shop & dress her ass of. It makes me want to spoil her with new heels every payday to keep her shoe game on point.

I enjoy the single life, but I have to admit, I miss having a girlfriend to SPOIL. To show off. To take shopping to the mall before our dinner date. Waiting an hour outside her house knowing she’s getting her hair right, eye lashes long, eye brows perfect, make-up on point just for me. I miss buying those Mani/Pedi gift cards that come in the cute lil box & surprising her with it to make sure my woman’s feet & nails stay on point.

I miss taking the SAME LOYAL WOMAN out every weekend, on spontaneous dates to the gun range, laser tag, in door bungee jumping, rock climbing, wine tasting, on a tropical cruise, snorkeling with dolphins or just to the beach for a walk on the sand after a I cook her lunch, fried chicken, bbq wings, potato salad, pesto pasta, fresh lemonade & peach cobbler I made just for us.

I miss having the SAME LOYAL WOMAN to cook for every day, to have in the kitchen teaching her to cook, then putting an ice cube down her back & laughing, play food fighting, then chasing her around my house
searching for her all around, only to find her laying in my bed, ready for me to trEAT her like food.

I miss making love to the SAME LOYAL WOMAN, texting the SAME GIRL all day, & never getting tired of hitting her with my hilarious vulgar humor and deep intellectual conversation. Being hilarious, making her laugh her ass off to the point her stomach hurts from how much I am making her laugh. I miss hearing the SAME VOICE every night before I go to sleep, hearing her cheese at the sound of my DEEP voice. I miss being a provider for the SAME LOYAL WOMAN, being her rock, someone she can tell all her problems to, vent to and then give her some sound advice, speaking life into my woman to make her feel better.

I miss giving those full body deep tissue massages after her long day. I miss having that ONE I can bring around my moms & sisters, to family events, so everyone knows she’s mine. I miss having that ONE to pray with, to cuddle up & read the bible with. I enjoy being Single, but honestly, I’d be willing to be loyal in a relationship if I found the ONE worth committing to. This is how mentally mature men feel. Yes all males may cheat, but a mentally mature man knows nothing can sharpen his iron and no one can mold him into a king other than a loyal woman.”

After I finished speaking, the young women really humbled me, as so many of them personally thanked me for writing “Why the hell am I still dating Black Women.” I never intended that piece to become an article. I was just venting off an extremely disgusting experience I had at a barbershop.

I want all my young kings to know they deserve a loyal woman, not a fast girl. We as men need to do much better. Lets be the men we want our sisters to marry, the men we want our daughters one day to be wifed by. Being a good man really is not that hard young kings.

All a Loyal Woman really wants from us as a man is us our attention. That’s all. And that’s not asking a lot at all. Don’t make her feel crazy for wanting us to give her consistency. Don’t have her second guessing if it’s too early to for her to expect us to be loyal, caring and faithful to her. It’s not. Not at all.

If we like her, if we want to spend time with her in any way, she DESERVES our undivided attention. Not half of our attention on her, and half on every other girl on these social networks. My sister said a man doesn’t deserve her time if we are not willing to give her our consistent attention. You may think that is a lot to ask but remember, in order to posses a treasure, one must in return give up what the treasure is WORTH. Loyalty.



462 thoughts on “Why All Men Cheat on Loyal Women – By Ebrahim Aseem”

  1. Undeniably believe that which you said. Your favorite reason seemed to be on the internet the simplest thing to be aware of.
    I say to you, I definitely get irked while people think about worries that they plainly don’t know about.
    You managed to hit the nail upon the top as well as defined out the whole thing without having side-effects
    , people can take a signal. Will likely be back to get more.

    1. Kevin Hart did NOT write this incredible article.
      It was written by Ebrahim Aseem, so please give the TRUE author CREDIT.

      Thank you.

      1. I love it. Ebrahim says: A mentally strong man needs a woman who will tell him the truth at all times…..” Yet earlier on, he said that men who cheat are: “An overly macho, mentally weak, sensitive-minded male knows he does not DESERVE a strong minded woman.” Therefore MENTALLY WEAK, macho men DO NOT deserve honest and loyal women, or men, as the case may be because THEY ARE WEAK !!! They do not deserve any partner at all.

      2. Well, whomever wrote it, they did so like an eight-year-old. “Me and my EX”? “I was inital hesitant.” I didn’t even get past the first paragraph. It’s sad that SO many people these days are not just cheaters, but illiterate as well.

      3. I’m not understanding why some people are complaining about who wrote the article and giving “proper credit.” Credit was given at the to of the article in BIG BOLD RED letters but for those who need “proper credit” then here’s the link to Ebrahim Aseem’s article : bit.ly/1lEgS9c. It amazing how some people can miss what’s right in front of them.

      1. Not all men are the same and not all women are the same so we all can’t agree with this article but I really like the part where he treats a woman the way women should be treated and the part where he shows off his woman heads up for that part for all women

      2. I been cheated on … I have always been loyal though and I felt stupid but I know my worth and I don’t allow cheaters to get away with anything 🙂

      3. A boy,man or whatever will cheat or do whatever they please, they can hve a intelligent woman that love’s him n give him they all n he lie n cheat is mind blowing n hurtful.

    2. Honestly, I agree with the earlier part of this writing. But the more I read, the more you’re straying away.

      As an associate professor in psychology i always remind people, act varies on definition. just like beauty.

      Your example, however fond, is only generalizing it. Not all men like being talked back. Not all women like confrontation. Not all men have intellectual. Not all women have rockhard-heart. There’s no textbook on how guys and women should behave, other than common sense moral. The trick is, to find a suitable mate. Even in sex, not every act is comfortable to everybody.

      I like the earlier statement.
      But those example are just too stereotype.
      Too generalizing.
      That’s just cutting it short to show how a men should be and how a women should behave, and that’s a NO.

      Let everybody be what they want.
      Let them TRY HARD to find a suiting partner.

      1. True… I strongly agree with u. First when I started reading ur long essay, I was like wow, dats nice. . Den, I was like wat the hell… lol.. man, we appreciate ur long essay..but yeah, do not discriminate women.

      2. I think what hes trying to say is he wants an honest woman who will tell him what shes thinking instead of hiding it for fear of making him mad. It seems like hes trying to say you should never submit or cower to someone elses will because you should know your own worth. Its not healthy to be miserable all the time. You should want a great relationship, not a relationshit.

      3. Harris, I think he put more emphasises on a stereotype not generalising and that’s the main point . He is trying to kill the stereotype that “ALL MAN ARE CHEATS” and he did a good job at that.

      4. Enough said. I’m a graduate of psychology and it taught me to respect each individual’s preference 🙂

      5. I’m not understanding why the prior on here are having a hard time with this article. These are opinion and bed in his fact, and his alone. Also, for you to be an associate professor, you really need to proofread your work, because you sound just as illiterate as the guy in the previous comment.

      1. lol, I knew it wasn’t Kevin Hart. Still a good read. And an even better strategy. I know social media traffic on this page has been crazy!

  2. Reblogged this on theloveculture and commented:
    “A Loyal, Strong Minded Woman will speak her mind, regardless of what anyone thinks. Tell us the TRUTH. Tell us when we are WRONG. A Loyal woman will not allow us to hurt her multiple times & still accept us. That is NOT loyalty. Not at all. That is Pacifying. Babying. Appeasing.

    A Loyal Woman will be loyal to your MANHOOD, not loyal to your EGO. A Loyal Woman will tell us the TRUTH, even if that means she might LOSE us. A Loyal Woman will tell us when our shitstinks, even if it makes us mad. A mentally mature man does not want a YES woman. Trust me. We don’t want a girl who will LET us hurt you and abuse you over & over & still accept us back, simply because you keep being told through Instagram Memes that real love must be suffered through and fought for. If she still stays with us after we prove to her time and time again that we genuinely aren’t strong enough as a man to keep her consistently happy in a relationship, it means she doesn’t really care about us as a man…

    When a Woman truly LOVES a man, she loves him at his BEST, not settling for his worst. She wants us to BE the MAN who we were destined to be…”

  3. In a long time i hav looked for the answer to why men cheat and thank heavens today i found it..shout out to Kevin hart…still cant come to the fact that you could say something this serious..j keep laughin at your jokes all day but today you made me feel my worth…

  4. this makes so much sense … 🙂 very true
    I’m left speechless because of how much truth lies in this …women should read this, no wonder we‘re always told to discover our true worth

  5. this makes so much sense … 🙂 very true
    I’m left speechless because of how much truth lies in this …women should read this, no wonder we‘re always told to discover our true worth …Kevin, you have gained my #RESPECT

  6. This is something of an Introvert who find satsfaction in flirting en dating then comes to present a long long poem

    1. Flirting and Dating is a techinique to get the Woman he wants. Its totally acceptable. He in no way will be characterized as promiscious. You have to date to meet a prospective partner

  7. Simply amazing piece!! It validates so much for me. My level of respect for Kevin Hart just grew in leaps and bounds! All women need to see this… and also the men who love them. 🙂 #BigThumbsUp

  8. MY GOODNESS!!!! ALL THIS TIME I THOUGHT SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH ME!!!!!! THANK YOU FOR THIS ARTICLE! I cannot remember the last time I had every emotion in me tested while reading! This I like!

  9. If ever the truth has been spoken, never so jolting as this. So multifaceted in opening our eyes towards the importance of holding on to our “Queenliness”. Honest, inspiring and revealing words.

  10. For once in a long time, I am proud of being strongminded, though friends keep telling me if i keep it up I will end up single for life. Somehow I can’t turn it off. I actually thought something was wrong with me, turns out I am queen-minded!! Awesome!

    1. Emily, yes you are a queen, dont let anyone tell you otherwise.You might be single but you are free from a dysfunctional relationship.

  11. Deep, intellectual and spiritual. Its like a mini-book.
    Trying to decode if I’m a male, or a young king.
    But this makes a lot of sense

  12. ……………I enjoy going on dates, flirting, courting and enjoy my single life, but in the back of my mind, I’m looking for a WIFE. I have ZERO interest in having side “dishes” or “fans”. I don’t need to have sex with every beautiful woman I meet to prove how much of a “man” I am. My loyalty, monogamy, spirituality & mental maturity proves that.

    Each woman I meet, I’m looking to see if she is Wife Material. Because I know I am Husband material. My mother raised a future husband, not a hoe. I choose to be celibate while single, because my mother raised me to be a father and not a baby daddy. I live my life this way as proof that loyal men do indeed exist……

    …And here i was thinking that there is something weird about me for wanting and expecting more than what is out there or what my buds have or seek…..am glad to know now that there are two..three..four…of us out there who expects more and are not willing to settle for less….being single is not a mistake..nor is it for lack of…its a choice..and celibacy too…till the QUEEN manifests herself or comes my way….

    1. Kevin Hart did not write this!! Ebrahim Aseem wrote this. He has written more enlightening articles like this one. Follow him on Facebook and you will see who the real author is. This man deserves his credit. Again, the author’s name is Ebrahim Aseem. Plagiarism isn’t cool…Kevin may have the same thoughts but he did not pen this.

  13. Good read. To refer to women as weak or strong though partly misses the mark.

    Any woman who can tell me what she wants, is honest and can make me genuinely laugh is immediately interesting and potentially good company.

    Women who do not know what they want and are not honest about themselves or their expectations do not have to be called weak by definition. The indication is there but sometimes people simply do not want to talk. Let them be and walk on.

    Loyalty is up to the partners in their respective relationship. When people are not clear on that issue nor make time for each other they risk their relationship. It is up to the partners…

  14. That is bullshit, and you must be gay to have a caption “why all men cheat on loyal women”! Not only are you making every women thing that they will be cheated on if they are loyal or not but to actually generalize on a whole gender based on just your thought..kevin heart you are not every man on this earth and I don’t really know you but you are pathetic. Don’t generalise with the way you interpret things because no two people are the same and you story about why they do it well that’s got to be just you… There are a few reasons for why men cheat and not all men do but maybe go do a survey before publishing utter bullshit.

  15. Wow…………this is mind blowing.How I wish every man can have a grasp of this.May the good lord bless this writer.

  16. I cant believe this guy, its like he was in the same room when i was saying all these things. This to me is a confirmation i didn’t over react nor did i make a mistake by leaving him cause my mother raised me very well n i know my WORTH, i wont settle for less. A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders right now. Wish I could meet this guy n thank him in person. my wish is for women to know their true worth n potential in this life.

  17. so true kev
    although your wife was strong as well when you met.which is why you married her.both should try i dont believe one should get tird, break a now emotionally attached woman who knows she is a wife and should try more, then leave her and imply her weakness.daen hurt to give her last respect and mention her in a good way.

  18. I take my hat off to you.
    I wasn’t cheated on but my ex treated me like a 2nd citizen in his life yet he believed he was treating me like a Queen. This post just made me smile because I was able to see I deserve way better.

    Thank you. I wouldn’t mind a cup of tea with you.

  19. nice trial..still more books for you to read to realize how unrealistic this was..maybe a research carried out would help am sure

  20. This is not, I repeat NOT, the work of kevin hart. This article belongs to Ebraheem Aseem. Fb him, google him, whatever… But kevin hart did not write this!!!!! #plagiarized

  21. Ebrahim Aseem wrote this…Not Kevin Hart. He ain’t tripping tho’ just as long as someone gets the truth and absorbs it in their hearts and minds…

  22. I’m sorry, but this wasn’t written by Kevin Hart. You all should check out Ebrahim Aseem. I believe you have your writers mixed up.

  23. Let me start off by saying that this article was extremely profound and surprising from KevinHart. As a male tthat has cheated I unfortunately have to agree that I cheated simply because of my ego. My wife and I had some bad arguments and some rough patches and I moved out. While living alone I found myself being approached by a variety of women and it did boost my ego. The problem is at the same time I also wanted my wife back. The “have your cake and eat it to” syndrome. Recently it was revealed that I was unfaithful and I lost that loyal woman. Like the article states, she would have moved mountains for me, but I wouldn’t move a stone. Mental maturity is a huge thing and losing something that you took for granted will make your ass grow up quick. A woman does not deserve the hurt that infidelity brings. That level of betrayal is intense and no
    One deserves that. To all my fellas, watch yourselves because there is nothing in life that is worse than regret. Once you do it you can’t take it back.

  24. Hi there,
    I ended up randomly reading this article and, even if I agree in some points, sounds very hypocrital.
    First of all, why is it assumed that every men is a cheater? I personally don’t think that every woman is the same do I think it’s fair to say that not every man is necessarily the same.
    Secondly, the description of the “perfect woman” is beautiful, career minded, own money, educated, intelligent, loyal, etc. Why does this person assume that the perfect woman for every man has to have this sort of qualities? It sounds to me more a reflection of what she want from a man, or this is the impression than I got. For example I don’t really care about her money or careeer, or even physical appearance are important just until a certain degree. Is it actually what a person looks like and how much she-he financially successful is that make him the perfect woman? It sounds really materialistic and superficial to me and, if a person has this sort of values, it’s not surprising at all that she get treated badly; I wouldn’t have high respect either if the mother of my kids evaluate my value as man and father based on my money, career or six packs.
    Looking for that sophisticated answer to her trouble talking about how cool and sophisticated she is sounds more like a frustrated way to convince herself of how much better than her man she was, sorry to disappoint most of the readers

  25. Wow! You just said it all, I just Wish all Male could be Men with such thoughts…..But still pray and Hope that I will Come across one of them and No settling for Less!!

  26. I respect your opinion and thoughts. But I’m just wondering how you draw your conclusions particularly if you’ve never cheated. To me, the article is one sided and written from a self righteous perspective.

  27. Word! Word! Word! This got me pumped up with a bit of hope that ..someday mayb…! “if I found the ONE worth committing to”….#asIkeepHoping

  28. I haven’t read the comments, but what I love about this is few things. First of all, I love how you described what you miss of a relationship. That is a real talk right there, and an honest one I might add. When you know what you want, you often attract it.
    Second, this; “A Loyal Woman will be loyal to your MANHOOD, not loyal to your EGO. A Loyal Woman will tell us the TRUTH, even if that means she might LOSE us.”
    It is simplified a lot, but yes.
    And I can see a lot of sharing the “girl will chase you, woman will replace you” It is strong and empowering, but not completely true. I think many like that idea. Yeah, I am a Queen, a Real Woman, not a foolish girl… But, when we fall in love, it is in the CODE that we become foolish.. Love is silly also, not just strong. So, I like how you distinguished that two with worth. Ahhhh, that is it. If a person is aware of their worth, they know they deserve to love and be loved in return. But, you know one other awesome thing about love? It can help both women and men to recognise their worth. 😉

  29. There are many reasons that can push a man to cheat, but as a woman it feels good that you have a partner in your life, is just that sometimes we as women we forget that we exist. So we need to take a good care of ourselves.

  30. I am on the other side of your fence. Just ended a short-lived relationship with a man whom I initially thought was godly man only to find out he’s just a kid who forgot to grow up. I didn’t deserve to be told off with the f- word just because he’s annoyed, nor be forced to promise to break a scholarship bond if he’s unhappy in future, nor limit my contact with people because my lifestyle is “incompatible” with his, nor waved me off when I tried to show him photos of my solo trips before I knew him. Though I miss having a person who’d hold my hand when walking on a dark, lonely road, I think the Lord has a better person for me than someone who wanted me to be a complimentary gift rather than an equal partner. I need a man after God’s own heart, not a male whose ego is larger than life.

  31. I am on the other side of your fence. Just ended a short-lived relationship with a man whom I initially thought was godly man only to find out he’s just a kid who forgot to grow up. I didn’t deserve to be told off with the f- word just because he’s annoyed, nor be forced to promise to break a scholarship bond if he’s unhappy in future, nor limit my contact with people because my lifestyle is “incompatible” with his, nor waved me off when I tried to show him photos of my solo trips before I knew him. Though I miss having a person who’d hold my hand when walking on a dark, lonely road, I think the Lord has a better person for me than someone who wanted me to be a complimentary gift rather than an equal partner. I need a man after God’s own heart, not a male whose ego is larger than life.

  32. Wow, just what I needed to hear. This is a must read for all women and man and males, they can learn a thing or 2

  33. Reali interestin neva thut of it dat way love isn’t blind after all if u gt da ryt info 2 journey on in lyf wid.
    I lyk encouragement 2 al women tryin 2 figure out wat she’s reali worth/is

  34. I once said somewhat the same about this topic. I am young but want to commit. Aint no sin in finding a woman you want to go home to every night. The woman you want to all day saturday with. The woman you wanna wake next to on a sunday to go to church with. The woman that challanges your manhood to make the better male, not a better male… Thank Kevin this has inspired so much more than just the Loyalty in me, but as well the consistency I know I have to have. With that comes stability.
    Antian Moosa here and out

  35. As a woman who has a 4 month old daughter and is still with her father, this was an eye opener and I needed to hear all of this! Thank you!!!! ❤️

  36. Well said…this is an eye-opener for me. there is nothing wrong with me( I am just not a weak woman). I have been told to lower my standards ( i.e intellectually as well) or i’ll end up single forever .i could not stop being assertive or knowing what I want from life. this article gave me goose bumps and brought tears to the corner of my eyes but I am glad I read it. Thank you Kevin Hart. I never thought you could be this deep and spiritual . This just made my gloomy day bright. i’ll continue to bask in my solitude until my King arrives so I can take my seat beside his throne.

  37. This is not Kevin Hart’s work!! I’m annoyed that it is being passed off as such. Give credit to the true author of this piece, Ebrahim Aseem.

  38. I’m reading this and I can’t help but realise that iv become that weakly for someone who knows my worth yet chooses to play dumb.thank you for the article it is indeed profound and gets one really thinking

  39. I would say LOYALY is the only thing that should take place in a relationship,but I’m inspired by the speech

  40. I’ve been told by a few “males” in my life that I have a “smart” mouth which makes it difficult for them to deal with me. I’ve never been disrespectful to them. I just call it like I see it and, I will continue to do so until I find “him.” I know he’s out there. I’m patient.

  41. Wow!!! Thank you sir for giving me hope, now I’m sure of my worth and I am so assured that a good man will come along one day!!! #patientlyWaitingForMyPerfectMan

  42. Wow.. Touched! So true.. Love how he said smart mouthed but nor disrespectful. Women gta get that right. Beautiful piece

  43. I pray God bless me with a mentally matured man lyk u cos is exactly what I need in my life. ..I left a man I dearly luv because he ws disrespecting. cheating on me over and over until I realised I deserve better than what I was getting.

  44. Honey, if your man is cheating on you, it is most certainly you. The inability to accept this is your ego at play.

    Your sister is most certainly a high maintenance bitch who is above her station. Let me guess, her boyfriends cheat too. It’s totally not her.

  45. Best article I have read by a man this far,it’s not cluttered with fake nuances of manhood or views of why men cheat.More men should be able to speak their true heart like this,it would a lot more loyal women Out their just amazing I ❤ it 🙂

  46. i love this article, it has opened my eyes and all my senses to the kind of girl i am and the woman i should strive to be, its more than meer talk to be faithful and have a guy like that in return, bt ts the most AMAZING!!!! Article i have ever come across……

  47. Dear Ebrahim Aseem,

    My name is Jowee and I’m a writer and curator for the news and media site Coffeeticks.my

    We are very much interested in republishing this piece that you wrote for our site, and I wanted your permission to do so. We thought this piece was extremely relevant, and would love it if you granted us the opportunity to let others read it too.

    Would you be interested in having this piece circulated more widely?

    You can email me at teejowee@gmail.com or respond in this comments section itself.

    I hope to hear from you soon.

  48. This is a very poorly written, sexist, demeaning and anecdotal article! A far better title would be, “One possible, untested reason why some men may cheat on a certain type of woman”.

    Throughout this piece, you also dictate how a “true man” ought to be. You also dismissed any stay-at-home dads out there when you said that a man should not live off a woman. We are in the 21st century! It is more than acceptable now for men and women to work and both have rights to earn as much or more than their partners in whatever career they choose to pursue.

    There is no excuse for cheating. That’s one thing I will agree with.

    Women (and men),
    do not stick with an unfaithful partner. They do not deserve your time of day if they do not value you enough to remain faithful – regardless of reasons around insecurities, mind games, power balance, etc.

    1. Micheal, maybe the title may not clearly describe what he is trying to commicate but the fact remains that he is trying to eliminate a stereotype that “ALL MEN CHEAT”. I also assume when he talked about a man sitting down doing nothing he did not mean stay at home dad because that is doing mahor work. He mostl likely is talking about potato couch who leave irresponsibly on women.

    2. He’s not talking about a stay at home dad taking care of the kids and house. If you can’t tell the difference then I don’t know what to say to you. 😒

  49. “How a male treats a woman is NOT a reflection of HER worth. Nor is it a reflection on anything she LACKS or is not doing. An overly macho, mentally weak, sensitive-minded male knows he does not DESERVE a strong minded woman.”
    “Males use cheating to TRICK a good woman into SETTLING for him. But this mind game many males play cannot and will not work on a Loyal woman who knows her WORTH.

    I learned as Men, we must realize that ONE woman who holds us down and stays by our side, after we cheat on her, lie to her, hurt her, use her and disrespect her over & over & over, she is NOT loyal. She is WEAK. She is poisonous. She will hold back your growth as a Man. Don’t be fooled & think a girl telling you what you want to hear is loyalty.

    As a mentally mature Man, we need a Woman who will be genuine with us at all times, even if that means she speaks her mind to the point her words pierce us and her tone appears to be “smart mouthed”. In reality, she’s not being “smart mouthed’ she’s being a Queen mentality strong enough to verbally ascend to her thrown.

    a Loyal, Strong Minded Woman will speak her mind, regardless of what anyone thinks. Tell us the TRUTH. Tell us when we are WRONG. A Loyal woman will not allow us to hurt her multiple times & still accept us. That is NOT loyalty. Not at all. That is Pacifying. Babying. Appeasing.

    A Loyal Woman will be loyal to your MANHOOD, not loyal to your EGO. A Loyal Woman will tell us the TRUTH, even if that means she might LOSE us.”

    I sooooo love this! 🙂 As they say “A strong man can handle a strong woman. A weak man will say she has an attitude”

  50. This a good article..I hate man who cheat but I guess the is nothing we can do..am loyal, faithful, loving and caring..but am ot if it was enough for him..am single am happy but some days its boring cause I need someome to have fun with..

  51. This is just simply not true, some of us don’t cheat at all. If you believe this article does that mean all females cheat on loyal males too? A ridiculous generalisation on relationships, if you cheat you are not loyal to your partner, if you are both loyal people neither of you cheat. If both are not loyal people maybe both cheat, then again as we know, we are all indavidual and there is probably a million reasons why an indavidual may cheat and only that indavidual knows why, not Ebrahim Asheem.

    1. why cheat??? why not work out of the relationship. That is the control and maturity we have to learn to have. The writer’s story is based on an ex asking him if he was faithful all through their relationship…. and i think this article is targeted at both audience, male and female.

  52. I love this article. Everything in it its 100% true. I, myself, have made the mistake of trying to prove my WORTH to someone.
    But, a real man already knows what I’m worth.

  53. all i can say is that…one day i’ll be able to find the strong men that i will do same things that you mentioned not because i need to but because he inspires me too. 🙂

  54. Change that headline to “Why All Illiterate Men Cheat on Loyal Women.” Not only is he an ******, he is also stupid and should not be published. “When I confessed to my EX’s questioning of my fidelity over a year ago, all she could say was “wow”. She seemed very taken aback by my answer. So today, when I was asked ‘why men cheat’ by a young lady during a Public Speaking event, I was initial hesitant to share the full conversation me and my EX had about her suspicion of my lack of loyalty.” Let’s seen: period inside the quote, “why DO men cheat,” Public Speaking should not be capitalized, “initially” instead of “initial,” EX not all caps (should be “ex”). That’s just the first paragraph. What a moron, in so many ways. I didn’t read any farther, because I don’t read illiteral garbage.

    1. LOL!!!! Now we can all see that in life we see things through our personal filter. Infidelity is just as wrong as stealing, lying etc. Bottomline, we all can change our ways, it will make the world a better place. Remember we all sin differently. In conclusion, lets work on ourselves to make the world a better place. We are all a WORK IN PROGRESS.

  55. True true, lets not get carried away by a well structured presentation that either makes perfect sense or confirms the realuty of our sad experienced in life…lets also alter the possibility that a man wont cheat on his loyal wife and the same with his wife. Truth is its manly nature to admire other female counterparts not necessarily suggesting that it is right. Wrongful in its nature a man has the ultimate decision to either do something about it or not. Presentation half supported.

  56. Just one question….who’s side are you playing for man?I’m concerned cause women are snakes and are not as plain as simple as men….when I was younger,round about 18,I met this woman(18) I loved her every bit,her perfect imperfections such as her ridiculously long toes…I mean everything about her. We did all that stupid shit you see in movies such as chasing each other about romantically and all

    All the time in that relationship I never cheated even once…or attempted…I was just a school leaver while she was doing her degree in Accounting…The higher she got in her studies and started envying these older guy with flashy cars the more useless she thought I was….she broke up with me for some guy that had a lot of money after almost 4 years and has a baby by her…

    I went to law school because of that and pushed myself hard and now I’m a successful advocate…I think I have it all but bacause of the heartbreak I suffered…I can never trust a bitch…the only woman worth trusting is one’s own mother!…..The moral of the story,Love on its own is never enough…you need to have money…a lot of it!

  57. Seriously one of the best articles I’ve read in a while!! I’ve been the “girl” whos been cheated on and taken back the immature male but I’ve also been the “girl” being cheated with, I’m definitely FAR from ugly, i wish that whole aspect could have been explored more, because sometimes the males who cheat may actually just want a better looking girl than they’re with(I stll say Girls though, because if we let a guy cheat with us were not a strong woman obviously)…Glad i’ve gotten smarter over the years and now know my worth & i’m a strong, loyal woman now! Be rid of you poisonous males and females!

  58. Dear Mr. Ebrahim Aseem.

    I write this to you with regards to your article dated 14 March 2014 named: ‘Why All Men Cheat on Loyal Woman’.

    First of all, I would like to mention that I am in a very happy relationship with a gorgeous girl in every sense of the word, that keeps me happy, and I her. We have been together for a while, and cheating on her has never even crossed my mind. Even if, according to your article, I will do it to make me feel I ‘have power’ over her and ‘feel (I am) worth more than her’.

    I am a guy, that a long time ago, realised that I should separate myself from the generalisation of the word ‘men’. I am not talking about physically or sexually, just in the general sense of the word, as portrayed in your article. I believe in gender equality and feel that a woman is worth just as much as a man in a relationship. It takes 2 to make a couple, and whether its 2 guys or or 2 girls even, the fact should be that both are seen as equal. Most of the comments you have on your article, just make me all the more glad that I pride myself on being unique and that I can prove there are males, such as myself, that do not see woman as a possession, but more of someone to be happy with, share time with, loving her for who she is in her raw beauty, instead of her spending most of her time looking in the mirror, trying to make herself as artificially pretty as your image of a perfect woman should be.

    You say in your article that you are ‘husband material’, yet in the next paragraph you say that you ‘love a woman with a smart mouth who will speak her mind, yet knows that (your) masculinity and romantic aggression will always demand her respect, so she never verbally disrespects (you)’. You also then ‘love a woman who loves to shop & dress her ass off’. So does that not say that you want a woman that is artificially pretty and that will speak her mind, but only if she says exactly what you want to hear, seeing as you demand respect from her?

    I personally don’t think that you should write articles like this and include the word ‘men’, as all people are different. I pride myself on not being as most other guys that I’ve seen, how they talk to woman, don’t respect them, and handle woman just as you portray in you article. Please just note that there are many ‘men’ out there in the real world, that might find your article offensive and will disagree with ‘all men cheat on loyal woman’, and I mean that in any form of the word cheat, mentally or physically.



  59. why do we let men exist? theyre clueless… women are always their mommies and they never learn how to heal their own boo booos or clean their own hair

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  61. So true….just wish the whole world could read this…so inspiring and motivating…so advisable to some of us….thanks for hints (; (:

  62. Thought provoking..
    Although I feel there can never be a good reason for one to cheat because we all have an option to decide otherwise… This article somewhat derives a bit of fear that would or might cause one not to be with someone if guys mostly or all cheat because they try to boost their ego. Too sad

  63. thank you Ebrahim! i needed to hear this, i was starting to forget who I am. I cannot be with a weak man period and i have tried, its draining. i wish he understood what i meant because it was all to make our relationship grow but i dont think he sees it, he thinks im nagging and crazy and im done playing the weak woman because that is not who I AM!

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  66. Well, sometimes a man can just lose interest and seek a quick escape by cheating- even at the beginning of a relationship when you, as his woman feel that things are going well and he simply hasn’t given you a chance- he just thinks that you aren’t compatible enough so he’s too afraid to confront his concerns face-to-face and just leaves/cheats sometimes by text message rather than standing in front of a woman and owing up to the reasons or giving an adequate explanation. Some males really can behave like that and yes, it is a male who is not worth the time of day- true enough- but you, as the woman weak/strong just get left to deal with the mess and in this case, the woman wants the last word because not everyone wants to look like the Loser 😀 epecially if you are so convinced at the start that you did the right thing but it is important for any woman who has been in this situation to be reminded of her self-worth and trying to fight back is tempting but it is also useless in the end. It’s good to know that this article makes such painful moments have brighter reasons behind men’s (or womens’) motives though!

  67. Speechless ..
    I’m not even going to ask or hope or pray that every other men think like you. You’re one of a kind and the queen that takes her throne will be the luckiest. This changed my view on myself. I haven’t been a queen and maybe should think things through if I think I’m ready for a relationship. Thank you

  68. So true… I was in tears after reading this. Thank you for an article that is soul-uplifting and inspirational. It is what it is… I saw my self and my story in this article. You proved it right. “Show a girl you don’t care she will chase you; show a woman you don’t care she will replace you.” He is now an ex =)

  69. Crap and lacking common sense. Eventually its still about the woman adjusting to the man and not equally around. Whats true is ur a lazy arse waiting for the ‘strong’ woman to change you while u bully the so described ‘weak woman.’ #facepalm

    1. I agree with you Karen; this guy is wrong in so many places. The thing that I hated about this article the most was the fact that he referred to the ladies who submit as being weak women – wtf! She’s that way cuz she loves you, bastard, not becuz she doesn’t realize her WORTH. I myself am a strong, confident gal with oodles of self-esteem but open myself up to my man in every possible way bcuz I’m truly bonded and in love with him, damnit, and not cuz I’m a doormat.

      Gosh, why in the name of lord have people high-fived this article so much?! :@ Wake up people, the grass is greener on the other side. Submissive women aren’t that demeaning after all. In fact, I’ve written an article about this myself – go check it out at http://emasculatednomore.wordpress.com/2014/07/07/my-girl-has-become-clingydesperateneedya-nag/

  70. thank you for this piece. iv been looking for a man to do everything for and with -things that you mentioned you wanted to do for a woman.
    I was single and celibate for 3 years, then I started dating a younger gentleman. it started out great :-))as all things do, but now……………..
    And I don’t understand why, but I have been wanting to end the relationship from last year, but I’m unable to. always making excuses for him, always willing to stay abit longer in hope that he will change, or that the things I want him to do for me – but he doesn’t, like take me on a date, or buy something when he comes to visit,or call me – more than once every 2 weeks (we mainly talk on WhatsApp) -or take me shopping – I don’t take money from him, so he uses it as an excuse not to spend money on me. I know I deserve better, I know I am a queen.
    but he has never cheated on me and he makes me laugh. but I end up doing things by myself.
    what is wrong with me???

  71. This article was originally said & written by Kevin Hart basing on his relationship with his now Ex wife. Please don’t copy & paste someone else’s work and claim it’s yours by putting your byline, give them credit. If u had quoted him and used some of his excerpts from his story & then related it to u & interviewed a couple of people on the topic, it would have made it more credible. Now i merely doubt your originality. Plagiarism is not cool.


    1. This is a great article. I am in a relationship now, and am learning a lot about myself and him. Over a year ago, I accepted him back after I found out that he cheated on me twice and got both women pregnant.

      Oh, yeah, I was heated to say the least; how could one be sooo stupid.

      We agreed that we would work on our relationship issues and that I would play a part in those kids lives, if I am to continue being his woman. I would only be with him if he started making strides to being more honest. The children are a part of him, so I demanded that we could only make this work if I be involved with him in their lives. I saw a potential king in him, I am already a queen. It would be great to find a ready made king, but these days, people are just very, very weird.

      The issues we had boiled down to bad communication, and we both having to have our own way at all times. It’s funny because we now live together and are closer than we were. He helps financially and has always played a significant role in supporting all 4 of my children. I don’t need his help financially (paying bills), but he contributes because he is a man, and should. That has allowed me to save money and plan a financial future, and upgrades in my home.

      He is now slowly communicating better and allowing me to mold him, and I am usually right, so it is hard for me to not want my way. He has slowly included me in one of the children’s lives, but obviously, this is awkward. He has been consistent, and as time goes on, I expect to be involved in the second child’s live. My thing is honesty, let me know what the deal is and if I am willing to be flexible in that way then we can do this. I don’t like being lied to, because I am honest about who I am, and with my inner circle of loved ones.
      He cooks, cleans, does laundry, opens all doors for me (except when I don’t want to wait), rubs me down, rubs my feet, is very affectionate to me, etc… I believe that weak minded men cheat when they think it is only a matter of time before the QUEEN leaves. I think this was the case in my situation, but is it possible for these weak minded men to realize what they have and try to grow with that person?

      I pray for him and we pray together. I can’t change him, but God can if he lets him. I can only ask for what I know is right, pray, then wait and see.
      We have been together for over 5 years and he is 5 years and some months younger than me.

      1. This is LiLi again, with all of the issues and drama, we have always and still can be in our own “bubble with just the two of us” wherever we go. I mean, if we go fishing, or hiking, or anything, we can get into our own world in a conversation, or just holding each other in silence. We genuinely enjoy each other’s presence because I am queenly but with humble character, and like to enjoy him. He enjoys my smart mouth, and silliness. But we drifted when we started to put expectations on each other early in the relationship.

  73. This article is full of truth and it really hit close to home for me. I bumped into my ex boyfriend recently and it had been a few years (81/2) since I’d seen him. He immediately asked me for my phone number and if I’d cook dinner for him as if nothing had changed between us. Although I was glad to see him and that we were able to have a pleasant conversation between us; these requests somewhat enraged me. Although it was a few years ago since our break-up(12), I still remember him coming to me and saying: “you’re too good for me, I don’t want to mess up your life.” Who in the HELL wrote that line?! As if he was doing me a favor by leaving. For a long time after I wondered “did I do something wrong?”, “what’s wrong with me?”, and “did he find someone prettier?” After awhile I began to realize that he was too much of a coward to tell me the truth, that’s all that was/is. Well A LOTS had changed since he left .He married someone else (whom he cheated on) and had a baby with that person! I suppose I’m good enough now that the other women in his life didn’t work out. All he and that relationship did for me is help me define myself even more and let know what I will and won’t except! Since our break-up I’ve improved myself even more: physically, mentally, spiritually, and I’ve gone back to school to obtain my bachelor’s degree. Ironically, I have him to thank for the motivation! I know I’ll make some man a good loyal woman/wife. I’m just waiting for the right one to come along!

  74. Awesome article. After ending a 27 year marriage, surviving 5 years from it met a couple males who I thought where good people after I helped them money wise and I started to recognize the money was more important to them (I felt a hint of manipulation vs love and could not pin point it as I was fresh out of a relationship and vulnerable). Clearly the last two guys one sat on the couch and quit his job I left as I can’t pay his bills, the second guy who kept sayin one day he will fall in love with me just not now and confided that he loves having sex with other women so let’s just be friends with benefits saying it’s alotta fun as it’s apart of my fantasy (he jus crossed the line of judging me)-there was quite a few indicators that struck me but I thought that can’t be ie. you can afford it why you complaining about money. Finally I dropped him I told him this is not right and it’s way too foreign I can’t adapt to what he wants me to be and I’m not like the other’s who he claims that I am. This article is uplifting to recognize the difference, I know there’s good men out there, my dad, his brothers and my younger brother all gems!

  75. I am sooo glad I ran across this Blog! I will be following Mr.Ebrahim Aseem because I Love his TRUTH!!! I just ended a Relationship because all I was asking was for him to be CONSISTENT! I am the kind of Woman that likes to resolve what ever issues there are. But i am not going to keep going down that same road with you, when we are obviously not on the same page or in the same Book! For two years he consistently gave me what I deserved and we were fine, and it was beautiful. But when he started to try and give me less than what i was use to getting from him…that is not happening! But he knew I was not going to go there with him, but for the past 6 months the battle has been on and I walked away! Truth be told: Give a Woman your Undivided Attention, your Time and be Consistent….We wil give you our Loyalty! AND THAT’S REAL!

  76. Completely wrong. There is absolutely no possible way that you can categorize men or “males” into two categories. Men will cheat for revenge, pressure, stress, just because, the reason you stated, and many more. Same for women. There is no category people aren’t a statistic. We are individuals and no one will ever fully understand why one person does something. Free will

  77. Am I the only one who doesn’t like this article? First off a woman does not dress for other men, so get over yourself, it’s mostly for other women.

  78. I hate hearing “all men cheat.” I know this to be false. I’m the kind of girl that has guy friends because bitches get on my nerves. And I know far more great men than women. Maybe I’m bias due to my 4 sisters all having cheated multiple times. Out of the 5 of us, I’m the only one who hasn’t/doesn’t cheat. Out off all my girl friends/guys friend’s girlfriends, There are only 4 girls plus me that I know for sure have never cheated. That’s some sad statistics considering the amount of chicks I know. I’m not saying men don’t cheat and women do. I’m just saying it’s not a gender neutral thing to do. Cheaters are cheaters and they don’t all belong too one gender.

    Aside from that, this article is quite contradictory… in one instance the author is explaining why men cheat and using the piss-poor excuse of “men cheat because they are insecure.” I call bullshit. That is not a reason- that’s is an excuse and a defense! Its a pathetic attempt to seem like a “broken man” so the infidelity will seem as a self image problem. You see, men know that women understand insecurity, so it’s the perfect excuse to defend his actions.
    On another paragraph the author says cheating is a way for men to have power over a woman. A man who wants to have power over a woman will not need to cheat for power because a controlling man will only seek out the kind of woman he could already have power over. The same applies for women who seek power. 3 of my sister picked their victims (I mean husbands) perfectly for them to have power over. The cheating doesn’t give them power over their spouse(victims) – their power/controlling nature coupled with the victim mentality of the significant other gives them the power/control to get away with cheating. There is a big difference.

    People (men and women) cheat because they can, because they want to, because they can get away with it without too much devastation to themselves, and because they are weak.

    Insecurity makes a person accuse their partner of cheating. It doesn’t make them cheat.

    While this article had some pretty good points, it seems to have been written by more than one person and for reader traffic because it is very flipfloppy.

  79. This is beautiful. And so true. I am going to have my boyfriend read this.I have been trying to explain to him so he’ll understand that I know what I deserve and I know what I want. I don’t care how much I love someone if you cheat on me I’m done . Why would I take you back cuz you say you love me ummm u said that yesterday and still cheated. I won’t find n ok one like u ummm I don’t want some one like you that’s why I’m leaving you. I don’t understand cheating .and I font wait around for it again and again. You cheated once what made you change? Cuz u got caught your sorry within that second lol but you had time to be sorry before you unzipped your pants did you? No! If you didn’t get caught I would of never known. You still was able to look in my eyes and tel km me you love me without it hurting you knowing what you did sorry that’s not love. That’s how I feel and a weak woman says oh I love him and stays a strong woman says I love him goodbye I want to be loved how I love him or what’s the point.

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  81. You don’t understand how much I needed to read this. My boyfriend cheated on me after me being sick for a week, with some girl who sleeps around and steals boyfriends
    And I saw them together on his motorcycle yesterday and I had been blaming myself. And I googled what to do after that to make myself feel better
    And this gave me peace. Thank you. Keep writing

  82. Why all women cheat on loyal men?

    I have been in 2 relationships and have been cheated on. Last one i was married to my wife for 19 years and had full and complete trust in her until i caught her cheating. Even after this has happened to me i still have not been with another woman. So, the question im asking is why do women cheat on a faithful man?

  83. Omg how refreshing and inspiring ……..took me alot of pain and mental health issues to grow o the woman i am now and to have my own conclusions underlined is so empowering for those times of self doubt as i stumble in my own integrity as others challenge me with bad intention
    I will engrave your words in my mind thankyou !!!!!!!!

  84. YOU are a KING!!! Verrrry well written…Deep and Powerful… Your mom is beautiful– what an amazing journey she has had raising you… Great job mom 🙂 and Abrahim, enjoy your journey in your pursuit of your QUEEN… She does exist 🙂

  85. all what you have said is very true. i love my boyfriend but this has changed my mind. he says i am too smart and i never understood. i guess am a qween . thanx …….

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  88. This is insightful but still blaming women!! Fuck! If you are a man take some responsibility! This article made me so angry. If you need the woman you are with to communicate better, tell her that. If you are needing something more in the relationship, tell her that.

  89. This is complete and total horse shit. Most men do NOT cheat on loyal women. Most men are glad to have them, and those men’s worlds fall apart when they lose those women. If you are a woman and believe this, you have been poisoned.

  90. I’m going to make sure I share this article with as many south African “males” as possible. My goodness how heartwarming can a piece get. Thank you

  91. That was great info..but please tell me..my husband has not physically cheated from what I know but…he is always online and posting pics of himself..is this just an ego thing?? Am I weak because ive not left him???

  92. I was cheated a lot of times though I’ve been loyal to my exes I am not fond of playing other people’s feelings.

  93. I would prefer the title to be more generic, I know those may have been the exact words of the student who asked them, but I like its saying something about me, by saying “ALL” men. I’ve tried time and again, and despite MY being a loyal man, I find the women I’ve met weren’t being faithful to me. I’ve been paitent. I’ve always held my temper back. I know I’m not perfect, but I asked my last ex if she thought I was better than most men she met, and she replied that I was better. Right now, she’s still working on problems with her anxiety, thats why I’m still single. I’m sure I didn’t drive her from me, I paid her cell phone, tried to help her with college, even gave her $250.00 when she wanted to try making it out on her own away from me. I also know that I don’t have any way to prove the man I am, or the things I’ve done for the women I’ve met, but honestly, is there a way to show that I am a trustworthy man? I feel like the shoe is on the other foot, I am a loyal man, who has met disloyal women. And yet, I am still believing that there are good women. So why can’t any of you find that fine difference between trust and naivety?

  94. Just a taught!……though the english is considerably understandable and that boys and man has different distinctions, it is still easier to say that “man is man”. We completely deny we’ve cheated due to one reason alone, we don’t wan’t to lose our girl. That’s the golden rule if your in a serious relationship. The moment you admit that you’ve cheated no matter if it’s unintently, that the time hell broke loose. To those man doing it often, you better tell your partner that you need to find your happiness…no BS, no nonsense. Truth is we all make mistakes. Maybe it’s in our curious nature that we crave for things that we need to test the water if it’s hot, deep, cold or dangerous (our fantasies) despite being told by experienced it is (Man or woman; no exception). It’s true that more than 90% consider males likely to cheat than females doing it is more unacceptable (maybe cultural reasons), that’s the reason why it’s more painful for males if a girl is cheat. I respect some of the ideas presented here but more of it is BS and are just said to lure girls. No reason to believe he’s a husband type man if he doesn’t have a wife to pressent considering ” he is very picky”. Hmmmm….anyways, thank you so much with your reiterating insights. I just learned a new trick to lure girls. Lol

  95. Just a thought!……though the english is considerably understandable and that boys and man has different distinctions, it is still easier to say that “man is man”. We completely deny we’ve cheated due to one reason alone, we don’t wan’t to lose our girl. That’s the golden rule if your in a serious relationship. The moment you admit that you’ve cheated no matter if it’s unintently, that the time hell broke loose. To those man doing it often, you better tell your partner that you need to find your happiness…no BS, no nonsense. Truth is we all make mistakes. Maybe it’s in our curious nature that we crave for things that we need to test the water if it’s hot, deep, cold or dangerous (our fantasies) despite being told by experienced it is (Man or woman; no exception). It’s true that more than 90% consider males likely to cheat than females doing it is more unacceptable (maybe cultural reasons), that’s the reason why it’s more painful for males if a girl is cheat. I respect some of the ideas presented here but more of it is BS and are just said to lure girls. No reason to believe he’s a husband type man if he doesn’t have a wife to pressent considering ” he is very picky”. Hmmmm….anyways, thank you so much with your reiterating insights. I just learned a new trick to lure girls. Lol

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  97. I’m just gonna say one thing and it pretty much explains everything. No matter your morals you’ll always have the instinct to mate and it’s what we best at. The reason we do it so much cause it increase the odd of our chances of survival as a species. So the more we fuck the more babies the higher the odds

  98. I’m in tears.. Today I just took back this guy who’s been my producer for almost a year. We connect in all categories spiritually, musically so During the recordings I shared a bed with him for six months before I was sexual intimate with him of which was a cherry on top most importantly I suggested we get tested and from that day I gave him all. And yes very true I stayed meaning to make him a better person, his slept with me and my friends and every time my senses tell me his not being true to me while I’m being loyal he’d lie and I know he’s lying most of all I had mentioned to him if you sleeping with other woman then tell me so I may know I’m in a polygamous relationship rather then pretending to be monogamous and still he lied how do I know this I found a picture of a naked woman on the bed that we share, finding this out I’m leaving the country the following evening I was never able to look at him in his eyes after that I was ashamed I value myself not. And now I’m in this country I didn’t plan to stay in I thought a distant relationship is just right for us as we confirm our relationship to be back on he says “I’ve deleted all my friends and friends of yours I’m friends with” on FB so I see all the people he named and claimed to have deleted are still there..so I ask, “why do you lie about deleting people you didn’t delete?” He replies, “I don’t like the way you speak to me, you always seeing the negative” I say okay and rephrased my question and he says, “we need to change your attitude.” Me: “For asking why you lying?” And he says, “Yes. Why can’t you just be happy we back together?” As I start feeling like I’m going crazy and need to sleep on it clearly giving him another chance or rather myself a chance, I decide to google and found you. I admit I am dickdizy cause that’s been my only obsession besides that we together musically are unbeatable this I confess and confirm now. All stops right here and now. Also most I’m glad I didn’t sleep on it and took action with profs.all you’ve said has brought me back to life cause yes for a year yes a year I’ve been thinking I’m going crazy, going back to him etc.. You know the story. Pweuuw, thank you. I’m in another country and I’m staying.

  99. Soo true! I use to be a submissive yes girl and I never could understand why I couldn’t find a good man. Now, I’m 45 divorced and a queen! I say exactly what I think and I do not put up with anything less then being treated like a queen. Now, men fall in love with me and want to marry me after a first lunch date. They want commitment from me before our first dinner date. Its wonderful I can have who I want and in the past I would have been so grateful and settled right away. Not anymore, I havnt found me right yet and I’m not about to settle.

    1. Oh by the way… Men will do all these things for you… They do them for me… I have new shoes, mani pedis, fixed car 2,000.00 worth, hair done , and trust me you do not have to be a yes girl to get them. You have to believe in your worth and demand nothing less!

  100. Wow this article is total generalisation…the stereotypical male and weak minded not so loyal woman…Cheating and being taken for granted has nothing to do with what you refer to as the so called weak woman it’s the insecurities of the cheater themselves…and to write an article generalizing male and females please both parties are capable of infidelity…I personally find these weak minded women as an inspiration to all to find forgiveness in the circumstance of an affair is the best way to test your self worth. Males and females infact need to embrace each other at the most dire times people give up too easy and inner strength is truly tested on the rebuilding process.

  101. Wow! This is so very interesting and eye opening. I never knew there was a difference between a male and a man.

  102. I get tired of generalizations. There is no such think as all of any group being or doing the same things. I am a man and Ive never cheated on anyone. I don’t like being lumped together just because some people don’t like to take the time to get to know people and would rather jump at stereotypes. Yes a lot of men cheat, but a lot of men isn’t all of them.

  103. Does Ebraham Aseem masturbate to porn and other imaginary fuckbuddies when he’s in a relationship with a woman?

  104. Hands down this is the best article I’ve read pertaining to this issue. I’ve seen so much bull from Cosmo that actually makes a woman think … WTF?!? Thank you for helping me see not only males but females differently too. I honestly have asked myself every question that you mentioned. I also thought this was going to be another cheesy article as well. I’m glad I came across this. Once again, thank you.

  105. This is the biggest bunch of bullshit I’ve ever read in my life. I spit upon the people who are stroking your overly inflated ego, and shit upon you for praising it. I’m a philosopher who just got accepted to law school, and these words made even my mind spin so fast with “WHAT THE FUCK?!?!” that I can’t think of what to say. I think I’ll have to pick it apart and make my own blog exposing the logical fallacies, gross deviation from morals and ethics, and excessive stress upon predetermined gender roles and the importance of a woman pleasing a man. Just fuck you.

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  107. ” A male knows if he cheats on a loyal woman, she will care about him more. ”
    This is not correct at all. Otherwise, A man would not sneak around trying conceal his cheat. And trust me he’s not thinking thoroughly through the consequences if he gets caught cheating. Now if its not a serious relationship, like consensual bootie calling I can see either side thinking like this.

  108. wow. This just convinced me to give up on all males forever. Firstly he referred to women as weak. Nice. yeah really empowering. A woman like that has low self esteem. Calling her weak would hardly help would it. Its written in the most belittling manner. If she can put up with all your shit and still be ok I’d call that strong. Its also men telling women how to fucking act! they want this they want that. fuck what you want! I think men think way too highly of themselves these days. Anytime a man has been in my life it has been terrible. I no longer want or need a man. I am not going to even try n reach any man’s standards like the ones stated in this article. In my eyes men don’t deserve women. who are you to pick and choose like women were just made to please. It just reinforces the fact that men have no self control, morals and empathy. The fact you need to be taught how to treat someone is pathetic. The fact you need someone to ”put you in your place” so stupid. Your mother raised an idiot with a huge ego.

  109. Who ever the real author is, they nailed it. It’s kk to see males cheating on their loyal gf/wife but man, come one how low can you get? There are men out there that is still cheating on loyal women and that’s because their weak minded( I know it’s hard to admit it but it’s true) and I would say their parents didn’t raise them well. Also, if anyone says it’s fine to cheat on loyal women, than your saying it’s kk for your dad or your daughter’s finance to cheat.

  110. I wish I find a man like you. My husband cheated on me last year and it broke my heart. Crave for love that is energetic, positive and spiritual…

  111. Probably all this testimony you read about spell casting online are spam right?And yeah some are spam some think all of them are spam which is totally not bad and i also know some believe spell casting really works but have not been able to find the right one. Well i think i found the right spell caster Metodo. I know he is real not cos he helped me but because i was there in his temple i Have seen him and his temple and i tell you it can’t get more really that what am writing now. I know you may want to know why and what lead me to contact a spell caster i am a south African woman here in south African as a matter of fact in Africa having a male child is like the most important thing in a marriage and it turned out that i am married to a very traditional man as in a he believes the male child carry the family name on and on but the females get married and change there name which is true. I were married for six years and i had no male child for him .Maybe friends and family filled his head with a lot of things like i don’t have a male child for him and as a result he need to get a divorce and get another wife that can bear him a male child. I always thought the people that filled his head with this ideas where is family and friends the people that i smile and dine with. The very people who ought to have advice him rightly. I never found out if they where involved in wanting to ruin life and my marriage. Not because i could not find out but cost i didn’t want to develop hatred for them cos i will always get to see them and it is not really healthy seeing the faces of people you hate. At that time, i mean before i knew my husband got himself a lover i was paranoid about him having a lover cos our lives changed a lot he starting coming home late he wouldn’t touch me any more and even he started avoiding me in our home making up excuses to stay all day in his study room doing nothing and telling me his need something off to clear his head. We had fights all the time i brought up the matter if he was see someone else. Maybe he got tired of lying i don’t know he finally asked for a divorce. A divorce my family saw him through his university and got him a got job i told myself and now he’s asking me for a divorce cos i don’t a male child yet for him. He was ready to let go of his three beautiful daughters he asked that i take them along. Maybe he was a real f**l and didn’t know what he had and maybe he didn’t deserve someone like me but one thing was crystal clear to me i was still in love with him and i wanted a complete family for my kid that and the fact that i raised him from the gutter i didn’t care about any of his problem when i married him and i forgot to say my father never approved our marriage but still i jumped into it thinking we are going to have each other forever. Though we are still together now but its cos of the spell i had metodo cast on him to make him see how much he needs me in this life. When i contacted metodo he asked that i get the materials for the spell which i did and delivered the materials to him in person that is to say i came in contact with him. I was to return in to his temple in 7 seven day and within those seven day he gave me a blessed a red candle asking that i command and say whatever i wanted every night within those seven days which i did on the seventh day when i returned to metodo temple he gave a harmless powerful substance with instruction on how to use it. This might seem like fiction or lie or what ever you lucky reads may think but deep down you know it true you just looking for a way not to get involved. I ve got my husband back and my family life couldn’t be better thanks to the spell though i don’t have a male child for him at least his them lover bore him one. contact him with his email if you want his help metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

  112. Wow. I ded needed to ready this. Loyal women aren’t appreciated and always made out to be crazy for knowing what we want. Lol nice hearing a mans point of view

  113. Thank you for such a well positioned view of manhood. The distinction between a male and a man is often misaligned, as they are not and the same. It is my hope that your message to both women and men will provide both enlightenment and inspiration.

  114. You are amazing. Every single sentence, paragraph, is ON POINT. I love this and want every woman man girl and boy to read to see that this new generation which is filled with negativity about relationships and finding “the one” , is All wrong. To find the one you have to be the one, they do exist. I had the same attitude towards all males, until I found a man and everything you said positive about being a woman just comes automatically because he’s worth it. There is no such thing as dishonesty in a relationship that is worth it. I salute you and reading this made me smile and have more faith for the future. Thank you.

  115. i have never in my life heard a man speak that way abt a woman only two god and my my bishop cause he love his wife and hes been a great example in my eyes but i tell you what i never heard a man break it down in that way oh my god .i what to know one thing can you be more then one man can you make this happen you know it can be done .lol lol lol cause cause then scatter wack the y got running around not all men cause i believe they do exsist but i never in my hold entire life heard a man speak in that way .continue being that example its needed because many women has been hurt in lifes over and over a man like you can make a women thier is still hope for her again as well as men .So thank you for being such a great example for so many people .

  116. Really awesum & Classy article!! After reading it i surprisingly came 2 know d bitter truth behind cheating a women is just 2 satisfy their (males) EGO wht males get by doing this even i was also cheated by males whom so ever i trust they shatters all my dreams ! Anywayz i strongly believe God will surely get me a REAL MAN (whoz thinking as same as like ur thinking material EBRAHIM) who deserves me & my LOVE !! Thanks a lot keep writing such provoking articles 🙂

  117. This article is in error. The biggest reason SOME (not all) men cheat is that the wife has stopped having sex with him. Depending on the husband’s tolerance, he may go for years without his wife’s intimacy before he seeks intimacy elsewhere. Men assume that sexual satisfaction will be a regular part of the marriage partnership. But they need to have that conversation and commitment from the woman before they make their vows.

    Further, a woman not having sex with someone outside of her marriage does not make her loyal if she is not having sex with her husband. It just makes her a roommate.

  118. Hello sir,
    Thank you for your nice posting.it is very interesting and informative site.Crap and lacking common sense. Eventually its still about the woman adjusting to the man and not equally around.

  119. Ohh my brother where ever you are, God bless u abundantly. I shared tears at the end while reading. My divorce is on process, and i wil be lying when i say i wanted it. God knows i fought for my husband to change and time came when i dont take his nonsense by cheating on me. I always knew im a loyal strong woman who speaks her mind out. Proud of myself. Thank u

  120. Thank you!!! All this time this man had me thinking I was crazy for just wanting his attention. Well you helped me realize he is right and I don’t want his attention any more.

  121. All that you said about a loyal woman is all i am and want from a matured king but my husband is not so and i want to leave him after i have 4 kids with him.

  122. I cheated on my wife but it certainly was not to boost my ego.

    I have suffered past sexual trauma at the hands of a parent so intimacy frightens me in a profound Ptsd sort of way. When my sexuality all but disappeared for my wife she would cry and beg for sex on the grounds I didn’t love her anymore.

    I gave into her coercion for as long as my soul could bare and when it couldn’t any longer she held me down (all 230 pounds of her) and forced me to give her a son I wasn’t ready for.

    I cheated on my wife because I was much to weak to walk away on my own. I needed to give her reason to end it because I’m a coward.

    it was to survive, certainly not for my ego.

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  124. I just would like to take the time out to tell you thank youI mean it from the bottom of my heart until I stumbled across this article I was to questioning myself but thank you for the clarifications upliftmentand daring to be different I say different because you must realize you are of a dying breedbut your teachings writings and encouragement to all of us mankind as in women and men correct the problem 6 what’s right and give us a solution to the problem thank you for your confirmation god bless you stay strong please do not change for anybody as you have given me enlightenment and encouragement thank you god bless you don’t give up on your search

  125. This article Is amazing! This is how I feel as a woman and to read how a true man feels just validates exactly what I am looking for. A real Man. Thank you so much for your enlightenment to both, men and woman, out their that are clueless! Thank you, best wishes to you and your path of greatness.

  126. Interesting read, silence is not weakness, one who is strong does not need to speak out to show true strength. What I can say is that a woman remaining loyal because that’s her standard does not make her weak but know that once you lose a good woman it’s your loss as a man and for her yet another opportunity to grow. Life is not black and white God is the one who vindicates, love with all your heart and know that in humility honor will follow. Life doesn’t always give us what we deserve but there is vindication in the end.

  127. A Queen would demand a man intelligent enough to spell throne correctly. I would say you’re looking for a drag queen but that would be an insult to another group of women way out of your league.

  128. This article is rubbish! This might be the reason why the author cheats but his assumption that this applies to all men is insulting. Men have many different reasons for cheating. I cheat and my friends cheat because ultimately relationships with women aren’t top priority. We just want to have fun and don’t put all our faith and pleasure in one woman–any sensible business person knows about spreading bets to avoid risk. The people I know, including myself have cheated and will probably continue to cheat because:

    1) we have other things going on in our life that are more important than relationships
    2) we reduce risk and don’t give one single woman too much power over us. Only a fool does that!
    3) we just don’t think about women too much, besides having fun, business and hobbies come first.

    Marriage and relationships aren’t for everyone! Despite what society likes to think.

  129. After reading BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com about Metodo helping her cast a spell to fix her relationship, i was hmm.. will say considering doing the same thing cos my life was a total mess. On one hand my girlfriend now soon to be fiancé parent did not want me to be their son-in-law cos i did not belong to the upper class community and on the other hand, i moved from Latvia where my life and job was to be with my soon to be fiancé in Azerbaijan. I had no home there but just the apartment we both bought together. If am not mistaking her father is a famous lawyer to almost every rich person in Azerbaijan. She was going to help me get a job in her father law firm before she broke up with me because she was going to marry one of her father client. All this was before i contacted Metodo to see what he could for me. As i said her father was against our relationship and she was going to marry a 53 years old man for his money. She has always loved materials things but i never thought she would pick money over me. We were still see each other not as lover but secret lovers. I loved her too much to be sharing with a disgusting old man because he was rich. I don’t mean to disrespect any elderly person i just don’t like it when rich old or young persons try to take or take someone you hold dearly to your heart cos they have the money to do so. In my own case it happened that it was an old rich man wanting to take the woman i loved and still loved with all my heart and strength. She didn’t want to marry me but she wanted to be my lover in secret. I knew she loved me dearly but she was also in love with all the money and assets the man had. she knew i was content with what i had and what she had but she wanted to be so rich like adding riches ti what she already had. The date of the wedding was already set when i realized that if i don’t do something to stop the wedding i would lost her forever. It happened that i came across BRUNELDA NATO comment on laurenconrad. com as i search the INTERNET on how to make a woman realize living without you will be a great mistake where she wrote how metodo the spell caster helped her fix her marriage and how she came face to face in contact with Metodo and also how real and awesome he is. I just felt compelled to also contact him for help maybe i was not thinking clearly or i felt it was my only chance to make sure she soon to be fiancé doesn’t marry anyone else but me or maybe i felt both ways. I know something was clear to me that whatever action i took was my last chance to win her back. There and then i contacted Metodo cos i had no money to travel all the way to Chad. I just trusted BRUNELDA NATO testimony that he really exist and can help me solve my problem. It turned out that BRUNELDA NATO was right. Now i can also truthfully tell you that Metodo is really something out of ordinary he is the greatest spell caster you can ever meet. He sent me some items that he told me to use to pray with within the 7 days he was casting the spell i asked him to help me cast with the materials he told me to provide to for the spell casting. Within those seven days of incantation pray my soon to be fiancé developed something i don’t know what to call in her head that made the love she had for me resurface i say resurface love because she became that girl i fell in love with back in Latvia she told me she was going to call of the wedding but was scared what would happen to her father relationship with the man. But all those worried faded when Metodo sent the spell that looked like a powdery substances with instruction on how to make it effective. She called off the wedding and nothing happened it was like no one cared anymore not the man or her parent almost like it idea was yipped of their head. Whether anyone believe me or not it does really matter the only thing i care to say here is that Metodo is the ultimate spell caster anyone can ever ask for help. Am going to leave his mail in case Metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

  130. Having very recently been the extremely loyal woman who was cheated on this article really helped. Although I’m still raw from the heart break caused alot of what was stated in this article is so true. I was questioning why & what I did wrong but after reading this I was a strong, independent woman who deserves so much better & he will be the one that will soon realise what he lost!

  131. I agree with most of the write up, but I also think cultural background and the fear of the unknown specially when there is a child or children involved holds some strong women back when they really want to walk away.

    My experience is that a lot of this women end up living in the relationship carefree, only to take care of whatever they are protecting (in most cases children.)

  132. So enlightening. My man cheated on me and was planning to leave him but not before I make him realize my worth. I’ll make sure he reads this. Thanks alot Ebrahim.

  133. You are just creating another opinion to induce social conformity for those ppl whom relates to you. Add more research journal articles to support rather then just rationalising it with your gut feel or “Holy Spirit”. Joke

  134. wow! i was enlightened after reading this article. well, i just got my heart broken. he cheated on me. but now i realize that i am worthy of someone else. we’re not just simply meant for each other. and right now im trying to accept everything. im moving on.

  135. I’m so enlightened to have been able to read all that you’ve said. It truly makes so much sense. I want to thank you for your realness. My life was a lot of what you said. Helped me see the bigger picture… IM A LOYAL WOMAN.. Who just let go of a weakminded insecure man who did all the wrong not me. Thank you for the justifications much appreciated.

  136. Amazing that anyone would be as duplistic as to use vulgarity after vulgarity and still mention “The Holy Spirit”. This was (by far) the most horsesh#t that I have EVER seen all in one article. I sincerely hope this guy has a dayjob. Lol.

  137. No Doubt, the details of a perfect man for a “Queen” is defined well in this article by “Ebrahim Aseem”. But, the only question that kill me inside is, if he was aware of these qualities and the true way of treating right, why did he end his relationship with her girl, making her the “ex”. If only he could treat her right, would there be a problem?
    OR he wants to mistreat the women and expects all o leave him so he could enjoy the one he finally wants to be with? Correct me If i am wrong.
    If the girl is suffering, would “moving on” make a difference if she love someone truly and remains right?
    The problem is the behavior of man and his ego.
    This is not too easy to move on after wasting all your life after someone special.

    Feel free to correct me.. I am 22, and my significant other treats me his way.

  138. Hell yes! I’m in a relationship with my daughters father and he just does not know how to stay faithful.. This article really helped me realize what its really about and its time to give this relationship up because its just bringing me down. I feel like I see things clearly now, thank you for your words of wisdom! I know my worth and how strong I am, I just have to find my strong MAN who knows how worthy I am. 👊👍✌

  139. I cheat because I have an uncontrollable urge to have sex. It has nothing to do with being weaker or stronger mentally, or to over power a woman in confidence. Being with a good woman means a lot. And I have the confidence, so I’m not acting in a way that safeguards me from the future (knowing she’ll leave when she finds someone better). Cheaters cheat because of high testosterone levels. That’s it.

  140. The illiterate, arm-chair philosopher who wrote this is probably living in his mommy’s basement, collecting unemployment and spends his day fapping off to internet porn and playing Call of Duty..

  141. Some facts were present, but overall sounded extremely narrow-minded. I believe a girl wrote this, not a man! Ego may be one of the reasons…but for real, any smart person should know why most men cheat and only few women cheat. Simply said…women often give up pussy in exchange for love, men give up love in exchange for pussy! Men and women are made differently…men’s sexual exitments are often get triggered by a woman’s looks…women’s sexual exitments is mostly controlled by emotions. Very simple to understand right? A man that doesn’t cheat is like a champ…somewhat like a world class athlete! And I’m not talking about a broke ass, ugly, low class, low charisma men that no woman wants anyways. I’m talking about a man that is worth something, that every lady around wants for his looks, intelligence (maybe), charisma, affection, class, money, fame, or his big cock. How hard can it be to for a man to keep it together when many hot chicks keep throwing themselves at him? Really hard…and it’s just a matter of time before Mr. I HAVE NEVER CHEATED finds himself screwing another girl. However, a woman that doesn’t cheat is quite a normal regular woman. That’s why most men pay cash for sex, one way or the other, and women typically don’t have to pay, expect for those with very low self-esteem.

  142. Got to say this article just seems to say men cheat because women let them.
    Nobody deserves to be cheated on if both parties have made a commitment to eachother, it does not matter whether she is sole breadwinner or does all the housework or whatever. If he has shitty self esteem and feels he needs to have sex with multiple women to boost that he should break up with his girlfriend and then do as he likes.
    Hurting someone is a choice and womens behaviour and expectations shouldnt be blamed for it, cheating men should take more responsibility for their actions.
    Interesting as well it starts with a chat with an ex that has never even been told of this cheating. That’s some real responsibility taking there, not.

  143. Thank you for your honesty. I got the answer I’ve been looking for. Nowadays it feels like there is little chance a loyal woman can find a real man. But I would never go back to a cheater. He does not deserve to have his ego boosted up anymore!

    1. Being lied to and played with ruined my life, Once I get hurt to a certain point.. even if there is love left in me? It’s just too late becasue I cannot be sensual with someone that showed me I was not important enough to care enough about an to protect. – So no matter how desperate or anything I may have felt to get a guy at one time, I am on ten years alone, and plan it be that way forever, Just not going there again.. I couldn’t even if I wanted to, sometimes we can get hurt past any kind of recovery ,and I am finally there, there is absolutely no way for me to try again.

      1. Hi me too! I will never risk putting myself through any pain due to a romantic partner. The many lies and then the so what attitude when caught and often more lies… Very traumatic.

  144. This was a really great article! It helped to lift my spirit during a tough time and made me feel as though the choice I made as a grown woman was exactly inline with what you are saying. When someone loves you they are willing to do everything within their power not to hurt you.

  145. Wow, the insecure cheat who has lost me after two chances of his secretive attraction (mainly to trashy, slutty women) the opposite to what I am and him thinking I would never find out. He made me feel worthless, uglyvall the things you explained. He played the perfect partner, looked after me, cooked breakfast for me and tea most nights when I finished work and listened to me when I was down. But I did so much more for him. Helped him control his drinking, helped him tgrough his post traumatic stress after meeting him 5 years after he came out the army. Making himget a job he absolutely loves and now ive fixed him I just want him to crash and burn. Hopefully if your post is true he might realize and hurt for what he has done and I want him to have a miserable life as I have found it so hard to deal with and I will never have him back as its one to many times and im not tgst weak women who wants to believe his lies anymore.

  146. I just got out of a relationship with EXACTLY the type of “bad-boy” Player-baby daddy low life “king” that this writer mentions. And it’s fully on-point. He cheated on me with numerous women, and I stayed with him out of the exact reasons stated. I was trying to be forgiving but then I snapped, and decided to be fully honest and called him out. He couldn’t take it, Ego was way too important to him. So..now he’s out-permanently and I’m so glad I finally wised up. All I can do is feel sorry for whoever gets him next.

  147. Where have u been all my life? For Gods sake get in touch with me! Iv never been so turned on after reading an article lol. U just get it! Thank you!
    Your loyal women

  148. Continuously hurting a woman can cause her to be unfaithful. I tell guys often.. never expect a woman to be more faithful/loyal than you are.

  149. You are blessed with the wisdom of God. Well worded. What confidence and humility come together and create.such a wonderful article.God Bless You.

  150. This is one of the best articles I’ve ever read! Finally a MAN’S perspective on love & relationships. I enjoyed reading this in it’s entirety. A loyal woman will noy settle for less than she deserve

  151. I think the writer is right I don’t think my boyfriend has ever actually cheated but I found out he has a secret Facebook with only girls with a certain look to them yes some are very pretty but they are all showing too much skin , he’s got a good woman by his side but he’s to busy searching for other type of girls and I was willing to look past the secret fb and him having just women as friends but then I saw his relationship status which was to my shock SINGLE that’s when I confronted him he said he’s never cheated I believe him but I also know if he’s writing single as his relationship status it means he doesn’t respect our relationship Thank you for writing this article because yes I know in the past I been weak with him but I also know I deserve king now because yes I’m afraid of being without him but I’m no longer weak because I am a queen.

  152. This really had me in tears I’ve forgotten my worth & have been suffocated with lies. Also he has cheated on me repeatedly & I still stay. He has gotten abusive when I told him I had enough. Were like poison to each other were no good for each other neither are we good for anyone else. I love this man but I ask myself why do I continue to allow him to treat me this way. I question myself all the time doubt myself as well. I’ve been dealing with a narcissist /polygamist….

  153. Wow, this brought tears to my eyes. I am truly happy to know that guys like you exist. I really lost faith and started to lower my standards, which I feel ashamed for now. Continue being the man that you are, God will send her your way!

  154. Wow so great to know – now with such a false premise to start, ladies we need to emimaye that premise. Premise says: insecure man cheats good women because he will have power over her and she will love him more . Now that’s ego! And fricking hogwash !! Ladies don’t stay because if you do it leads men to believe stupid lies like these sheesh – of all the crap I’ve heard, wow!

  155. wow iam so loving what i’ve just read here it is so damn true iam one of those loyal women out there searching for a loyal guy

    my story

    iwas once cheated on and iwas once a weak woman iwas cheated on over and over again but iheld on to him ikept pushing and hoping that he will change but one day ifaced him itold him what was on my mind itold him what he was not expecting to hear and i left him……..
    thank you so much ireally admire this article and it is telling the truth and iam willing to stay as a loyal woman because iknow ideserve better than being cheated on being lied to being hurt repeatedly and being taken for advantage because of how much iam known that iwill hold on no matter what the situation is…

    power!!!!! 🙂

  156. I’m so glad I read this article. I met my now ex ten years ago. I felt like something wasn’t right three months into seeing him. But since I had no proof I ignored my intuition. After our first child I found out about one girl he actually was in a relationship with in another state. She had no idea he had a kid with me and lived with him. I regret not throwing him out that night like I wanted to.
    I am not a woman with low self esteem but am a hopeful person that person can change. Well use to be. I really wanted it to work because we have kids together. We lived together three times and went back and forth. He continued to cheat with many many women..he had three sometimes at a time. I had no idea until we were pregnant with our second child. Then I found out he cheated on me with my neighbors, a girl from my kids day care, etc etc. over 20 women. Most of them knew about me and still saw him. He cheated on me during both pregnancies, when he fake purposed twice with the wrong ring size(when I tried to move on), when I was hospitalized for a tumor….. He was never honest. People don’t change. All that wasted effort and time for nothing.

    Excellent well written article

  157. Is this a fucking joke… Grow the fuck up
    Home boy… I’m
    41 r u mentally slow … Rewrite this immatture shit for real women this is complete bullshit!

  158. Just wanted to say your words was on point. Weman of today need to be enformed. Your words is an eye opener and its encouragingg for me. Beinging a strong black woman.
    Thank You!!!

  159. Read this a year ago with someone I cheated on. Kept cheating. And lying. Laughed when she cried. Kept talking to people promised wouldn’t. Was caught. Was mean. Whatever.

  160. Thank you so much for writing that! I have always been that loyal woman…until this boyfriend. I was blindsided with what I thought was love. I wanted to show him I had faith in him and believed in him. He in return says it’s my fault. I felt alone as we were in a new state, new city together and I had no friends or family. I was alone. I started to become weaker and weaker and he took control. He still has control. I even said I would marry him and started to plan a wedding. Right when I thought I was strong enough to leave and I was making the most money…I found out I was pregnant. He had left me at the alter as well…6 hours before the wedding 2 1/2 months pregnant. I eventually took him back after 5 months. Again feeling alone and having no worth. Who would want a single new mom at 40? His infidelity has continued. He left again for another young girl saying I wasn’t adventurous enough and too ‘vanilla’ for him. My son was about even a year. I self esteem always no more. I didn’t have fight. I had post partum depression and I was unemployed. You’re right…I had no worth. I wasn’t loyal. I was and am feeding his ego. He has a huge one. Always has to be ‘that guy!’ At a party r any social event. Has to be that friend who always has to go out with friends and leaves me with our son. Now he is an amazing father, that I will give him. But that’s it. He works and provides. But I stay home and work as a ‘house wife’. I do everything. I even work one day a week. He works 3. Has a blog. And is doing ‘entrepreneurial’ things. I don’t know why he stays as he would rather be single. But I’m sure it’s because he gets his laundry done, food to eat, see his son, has a roof over his head and does what ever he pleases. I ask why he stays and he says ‘I love you and I will never ever leave!’ I ask why do you disrespect me? He says ‘I don’t disrespect you. ALL men cheat!!! It’s in our DNA!’ And it makes me lose faith and trust that any man will be different. I seriously believed until this article that all men did cheat. That there was no faithful loving man. That all I grew up knowing was just a false. Until I read this article I believed I was loyal. I knew I was loyal! But really I am not! I have no self worth. I have no self esteem. I am controlled by an ego which I have allowed for almost 9 years. I am nothing!

    Thank you for your article and to know there are some real men out there.

  161. Well spoken…….I love this…..I often felt, I would be alone for being strong minded…..what u have written help me keep and others stay focus of being true to themselves and believe that good men are out there……I have walked away from a male …who couldn’t make a choice of being in a committed relationship….. I wanted, he always said I was a good woman, and i told him that i listen to him say i am a good woman over and over…..who was he convincing, only himself. I told him that i know i am……and after spending time with him….I told him a good woman deserves a good man and walked away…….

  162. I loved it so much that I made it the talk of today on my group message I’ve got a response from both males and females $one guy replied what about the women who cheat on good men I told him that I guess it can work both ways and a female in my family try to tell me to keep a spare tire but I couldn cause when I love I love devoted to my husband then I got a message picture of a Bear Dog mix with Barracuda whale with my husband giving her head his eyes were closed as if he was passed out poor thing you could hardly see his head she was laying down but her stomach was sitting up of course he runs home and denied it I showed him the picture then he said she was trying to blackmail him for more money my question is what you doing there in the first place then he start hooping and hollering as if its my fault or trying to blame me I didn’t understand why I stayed I still have feelings but not the love and trust that I had once I thought maybe I’m afraid of being alone or could be financial help but after reading what you wrote it really makes sense one time he was drinking and I asked him why do you lie to me and on me why do you try to destroy my working vehicle and everything I try to accomplish he replied and I quote I don’t want no one else to like you and you won’t need me if u make money it is said a drunk man tells no lies I even tried explaining that if he makes a dollar and I make a dollar we have $2 I got my own place with my son he comes and kick the door down and destroy the place im down again don’t want no one around me even my family give me money and tell me he loves me I tell him I don’t feel loved I feel hurt and love don’t hurt why do I stay why do I still love him 16 years I admit I do have a mouth I don’t know who told me I had a freedom of speech cause when I’m mad I say somethings … Even our son is starting to disrespect me custody drunk and mad he will tell our son to do this but still I have deep feelings for him and our 12 year old son nothing I wouldn’t do for him … That was like 100 pounds off my chest I feel better that I finally told someone

  163. Yeah right! WHY is it always apparently the men who fucking cheat?

    I have been LOYAL,respectful and kind to women ALL of my life yet have been cheated on as of last N0v 2015 by and wait for it eleven women! So don’t gimme the bulls..t that men are all bad, women as re just as bad in not worse because no one of my ex’s thought caught red handed admitted to infidelity!

  164. Jesus… That was deep. This needs an award. Amazing article. I have never heard such truth, admiration and respect all in one article. Praise to the author of this.

  165. All this is dandy but remember the other type of man-the abuser.abused women do not speak back or speak out because they have been conditioned through intimidation to self preserve by avoiding confrontation.weak men take strong women,like u have described,and beat their confidence down to a pulp.almost all cases where she doesn’t leave or fight back after disrespect and maltreatment are abuse cases.emotional and mental abuse will turn ANY woman weak,not to mention physical abuse.I personally think that my loyalty should lie with myself and not with any man,no matter how good a man he is.I resent the idea that the full complexity of myself as a woman should be reduced to how well it fits with a certain group of criteria that renders me either worthy or unworthy of a man.I am strong,yes,yet equally weak.I will fight for you if I love you,yet I will leave you when Its time.I will be that girl that’s scared to lose you cz guess what?that’s life.my weakness is just as beautiful if not more,than my strength.it just takes a discerning,MATURE man to see that.

  166. Wow! Powerful stuff! This is what exactly i was doing in my relationship! Forgiving each time ! So I do need to replace him after all! This makes me question!! Are people so predictable!!? Its my story written down there!

  167. Very impressed by this article, if it is meant from heart, which, i believe, it is. That is for sure, a real man (who is worthy to be called a man) knows what he wants and would not change it for anything else once he gets it. It is as the story about the pearl. So does a woman. She knows exactly, what she wants. I would say a strong spirit that can lead her higher up. Unfortunately, there are many boys and girls among us… many of them becoming parents, which is a real tragedy. Sincerely hope, you will find the woman of your heart and make her truly happy. God bless. K. 🙂

  168. A girl will chase but a woman will put in a certain amount of time to get your mind right if youre confused or scared of commitment. But after you cross the threshold of self respect a real woman will leave you, not replace you. Any real woman won’t jump into someone else’s arms straight away because she is mature enough to let her feelings subside before she tries to date again.

  169. sometimes its not your fault but your guilt kicks in and you start blaming yourself it happened to me and its hard to take all the internet advices i got could not help psychics eating my money for nothing thinking it will help but nothing i ended up consulting therapists because i was depressed still nothing but my work mate a guy from africa helped me and told me about a healer in there african country at first i thought nooo but the depression kept killing me wanting to die and then i thought why cant i try him because i was at a point of no return and then when i called the guy he asked me for a few things and some money and then i gave up because i thought it was these scarms.
    after a rough few days i decided to take my chances with him and i sent him what he needed and in the first few days i thought he had corned me coz i called him without answering but after a few days he called me telling me my job was done and i answered saying but nothing happened and he said the “the day is young” i just said ok so i got nervous wel waiting for nothing but before 4 pm wooow there was my boyfriend at my door wanting to talk i could believe but until now am a baby to him so try that guy maybe he can help u and his number is +27764463373

  170. This was painful to read. It goes to show that it’s REALLY about finding a mate that suits you personally because I don’t think I’d want anything to do with a relationship like the “ideal” one described in this article. Seems like a very clingy, weak minded boy who always needs to be whipped into shape.

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