Baby Boy

If I ever get the privilege to be a mother, I pray that God blesses me with a girl.  I feel I’d be a better more tuned on mother to a girl. I’d teach her to listen to her gut, to let love find her, to love God more than she could ever love anyone. I’d teach my daughter to read books, to reflect on life, to talk in public, to appreciate high heels.  But, If God blessed me with a boy, I will still be content and although I know nothing about being a man, I will teach my son to be a good man.  I’ve tried to come up with a list that encompasses  the lessons and ideals I would like my son to grow up with. In today’s world where people don’t always treat others with respect and courtesy, I’d want my son to know what the right way is. I’d teach him; 

  1. A man is as good as his word. Always keep yours.
  2. Buy meat. In a family set up, its a man’s job to buy the meat. Period. 
  3. Open the door for people. This is your chance to offer what will, for some people, be the only kindness they experience all day.
  4. On the first date, you pay.  It’s the right thing to do. In fact, unless she insists, you always pay.
  5. Play a sport. It will teach you how to win honourably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble. And maybe even throw or catch.
  6. Always keep your eye on the ball.  In sports, “the ball” is the ball.  At work, “the ball” is the task at hand.  In relationships, “the ball” is whatever your woman says it is, even if keeping your eye on it is counter-intuitive, illogical, absurd or just downright contrary to physics.
  7. Say thank you. Be thankful. Whether it be a Christmas gift from Grandma and Grandpa, a thoughtful birthday gift from a friend, or a friendly gesture from a neighbor always say thank you. You can never thank someone enough for thinking of you.
  8. Be curious, not furious. Instead of being frustrated or angry or annoyed as to why someone did something, try to figure out why they did it.
  9. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship so don’t take something away from her that you can’t give back.
  10. Use careful aim when you pee. Somebody’s got to clean that up, you know.
  11. Forgive. Though it will be one of the toughest lessons you’ll learn you must learn how to forgive. Whether you forgive someone for wronging you in some way, disrespecting you or lying to you, forgive them. You don’t want to carry around anger all the time. However, make sure you don’t allow them to hurt you or wrong you again. You must also learn to forgive yourself.
  12. Save money when you’re young because you’re going to need it someday.
  13. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom. Now please go use them.
  14. Pray and be a spiritual leader.
  15. Love hard.
  16. Women judge you by your confidence, your shoes, your belt, the cleanliness of your clothes, your shoulders, your abs, and your job – in that order
  17. Less is more. This applies to every aspect of your life.
  18. Fight the good fight. You can’t win at everything but you sure as hell can put up a fight. As long as you are capable of fighting for something, do so. If you want something, work hard for it and don’t give up. Fight for your career, your success, your marriage, your children, your family, your well being and your health. Be willing to accept failures but know that you did your best and that you fought until you had no fight left in you.
  19. That said, choose your battles wisely. Decide which hill you want to die on. Most battles, whether with family, friends, employers, employees, or strangers, are not worth fighting.
  20. Don’t ever be a bully and don’t ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.
  21. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.
  22. Treat women kindly. Forever is a long time to live alone and it’s even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.
  23. Take pride in your appearance.
  24. Be strong and tender at the same time.
  25. A woman can do everything that you can do. This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M. Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.
  26. “Yes ma’am” and “yes sir” still go a long way.
  27. The reason that they’re called “private parts” is because they’re “private”. Please do not scratch them in public.
  28. Peer pressure is a scary thing. Be a good leader and others will follow.
  29. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.
  30. It is better to be kind than to be right.
  31. Read a lot. Read books, read magazines, read articles, read whatever you enjoy. It keeps you intelligent, focused and you’ll always learn something new. Write some too.  And, for pete’s sake, learn some math and physics.  If you don’t, the Chinese are sure to take over the world.
  32. If you have a hangover, it means you deserve it.  I hope the fun was worth it. Don’t use drugs.
  33. When it comes time to choose a career, do what you love.  By the way, “what you love” is not living with your parents, sleeping late and/or getting high.  “What you love” is a pursuit that engages you fully in a mentally, emotionally, and physically challenging way and involves you having your own house or apartment and your own money.
  34. Don’t Kiss and tell.
  35. Life is short. Never forget this and live your life according to this. We all hope we’ll live to be old and wrinkly but we don’t know when our last day will be. Live every day like it’s your last and live with no regrets. YOLO baby, YOLO
  36. Be prompt.  Being late is a sign of disrespect.  Other people’s time is just as important as yours.  At the same time, it works vice-versa.  If someone keeps you waiting, they better have a really good reason
  37. Money is important.  Very important.  But people,  health and love are more important.  Find a balance.
  38. Look out for the guy at work who’s nice to everyone all the time.  He’s the one who stabs everyone in the back. Also, Look out for the woman at work who’s hot and flirty.  She will lead you down the road to getting fired, divorced and full of std’s.
  39. Focus on the good and not the bad. We could all sit around and mope about what we don’t have but appreciate what you do have and the good things you have surrounding you. We all go through tough times and challenges but that’s life and it makes us appreciate the good.
  40. Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.
  41. Never raise your hand on a woman. It doesn’t matter what the situation is.
  42. Know that I will always love you, no matter what. There is nothing you could ever do to make me stop loving you and you can tell me anything. I have adored you from the moment you were born and you will never disappoint me.





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