Girl talk

I am all for women empowerment. I lie seeing happy, successful beautiful women getting there’s.  Ladies, today I will share with you these nuggets of wisdom and sage advice that my girlfriends and I have learned over the years. Pull pull. You will thank us later!!!

There are two types of men: Good men and bad men. Period. Don’t marry until you know how to tell the difference between the two! Good men are protectors. They will guard your heart, protect your emotions, defend your honor and stand as champions for your spiritual, mental and physical well-being; choose a good man!

OK ladies; you’ve met this great guy, but he’s got a child or children for which he does not take care of, provide for or see to. Follow these instructions to the letter: urgently send him back to the mother(s) of his child(ren) and don’t look back. Don’t make the same mistake the mother(s) of his child(ren) did! Don’t allow yourself to be their next sperm repository.

If he doesn’t fit – don’t force him, just relax and let him go. Destiny is on your side.True love will find you. Let it be.

Momma’s boys belong with only one type of woman; their moms. Ladies, these mothers and their sons will never cut their cord. Therefore, for your sake, leave them alone and just let them trot home to their mommies. You are not a man, therefore, you will never be: a role model for men, a father figure, a man’s mentor or a man’s coach. If a man has lacked proper male leadership in his life, kindly send him on his way. Know for a certainty; he is not prepared for the responsibilities that come with love, sex, relationship and marriage.

Don’t judge all men by one man’s actions; unless you want all men to judge you based on the acts of amoral women. I am not asking you to trust every man you meet, but give him a fair chance.

You wondering, “If I move in with him, is he going to marry me?” Answer: “Not likely!” Don’t believe it, take these two critical tests: (a) Ask any good man and, (b). Examine the ever-growing list of disillusioned women who are waiting for their non-committal live-in boyfriends to pop the big question.

You cannot change a grown ass man. Don’t ever delude yourself! Your beauty, fine body, sexual prowess, cooking skills, femininity and vibrant personality will never be enough to change a man, NEVER!

If your potential mate does such things as: promises to call you but doesn’t, makes dates and breaks them, shows up late or plays games with your emotions; take notes ladies… those are clear cut warning signs that he does not value you, he does not love you and he does not care about you!

If you choose to be with bad boy, a player, a thug, a bully or any other bad man, you have absolutely no right to complain when they torch your emotions, abuse you, leave you pregnant and alone, jeopardize your safety and otherwise harm or hurt you. Remember, you have freedom of choice and you chose to be with them!

When a man is trying to find himself, kick him to the curb… permanently! He can find you, but can’t find himself? He shouldn’t be looking for love, he should be searching for the map to Manhood!

There is a vast difference between sex and love. Most men know the difference and you had better learn it fast! If you fail or refuse to do so, you are headed for relationship crash and burn. If he is demanding sex and you are not his wife. Write this down: There is no need to wonder, debate or contemplate: he does not honor or respect you. When a man truly loves you, he will honor and respect you. If he doesn’t, don’t deceive yourself, he does not love or care about you! And remember, once you have sex with a man who is not your husband, he may never admit it, but he has lost a degree of respect for you. Don’t believe it? Ask any good man or an elderly woman.

Spoiled women are like spoiled milk, spoiled meat, spoiled fruit spoiled bread and spoiled brats. Get the picture? Don’t become a spoiled woman! You don’t need to bully or belittle anyone to get your way. Promiscuous immoral women are not worthy of an good man. They never have been and they never will be.

You’ve asked these questions, “Why doesn’t he call me more often? Why doesn’t he pursue me more and why doesn’t he show me that he loves me?” Answer; he’s not into you! If you don’t let him go and move on with your life, you will allow him to hinder or block your true love from finding you! If a man wants or loves you, you never have to wonder if he does.

Some males like to hit women. It gives them a sense of power and control. If you give yourself to one of these abusive males, most assuredly you will become a punching bag and a floor mat. If he hits you once, he will hit you again. Put on your boots and walk. You were not designed, built or destined for abuse, whether: emotionally, physically or financially. If he is an abuser, there is no need to deliberate… he IS NOT the one; leave him now!

Some women live their lives vicariously through the women on “Sex in the City and Desperate Housewives.” Don’t become one of these women. If you do, you will make a literal mess of your life, emotions, physical body and well-being. Real life is not a soap opera, live your reality.

The dismal cycle of breaking up and making up only works out in the romance novels and in the movies. If you are riding that emotional roller coaster get off right now! Your heart, mind and soul will forever thank you.

Self-love: if you don’t have it, pull yourself off the market. Make no mistake about it, if you don’t love yourself, NO MAN can ever love you, no matter how great a man he is. Angry, bitter, hostile, combative, unforgiving single women, become: angry, bitter, hostile and combative, unforgiving wives.

Women who hold grudges, seek vengeance, cling to bitterness and are unwilling to forgive, unwittingly break their own hearts. You will die of stress if you don’t learn how to forgive. Let go and let God.

Nothing is more beautiful, captivating, attractive and sensual than a woman with a gentle and peaceable spirit


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